I Want to Write...but Don't Know How?

My mind is overactive.  Sometimes I can't just think about one thing long enough to write a blog post about it.  In the past several days I have thought of...a BAJILLION topics I could possibly write about; all of them personally interesting to me (and that I have been thinking about a lot), but I'm just too ADD to get them out in a cohesive fashion.

Now, I know I'm not a bad writer. I may even be interesting and engaging. Likable? Well, that has yet to be seen. So, how do I create a blog that people want to read, because god knows people don't want to just read the random musings of a twenty-something...or do they?

Here are some topics I was considering writing about in the future. Perhaps you can comment and let me know what topics you would be most interested in reading about from good ol' Sam's perspective?:

-What Is/ How to Identify an Abusive Relationship

-How to Dress Fashionably Without Spending a Ton of Money on New Clothes Every Six Months

-My Personal Spiritual Beliefs (because you care)

-Awesome Music and How To Find It

-Reviews of Neat Places in Portland

-Discussions of my Travels (This will happen. I am going to Pennsylvania this weekend and Alaska at the end of June. YAY!)

-Self-Esteem/Depression/Mental Illness, and How it Affects Relationships

-Terrible Writers on the Internet

-Awesome/Inspirational Blogs That I Have Read

-Great Books and How They've Affected Me

-Marriage (my feelings on it and how it has affected me)

Anything else you want to read? This blog is a work in progress...It will get better. I swear... (Gee, I've heard that before.)

Racist Shit Still Happens, And It Needs To Stop

I has come to my attention recently that one of my friends who is beautiful, intelligent, strong-willed, and talented, has actually been told by boys (and they ARE boys, not men) that they,"just don't like black girls." Oh, yeah! She just so happens to be black! Not only is this completely fucking racist, but it's also bullshit.

There are beautiful people of every race, just as there are unattractive people of every race. I am willing to bet that those guys think that Beyonce, Halle Berry, and Naomi Campbell are gorgeous and desirable, and they definitely wouldn't turn them down just because they were black. In fact most guys of ANY race would jump at the chance to be with any of those women (except Maybe miss Campbell, because I hear she's not so pleasant. She is, however, fucking gorgeous.).

There are plenty of reasons to turn down someone's romantic propositions, and some of them may include attractiveness. No one deserves to be in a relationship with someone they aren't attracted to.  However, none of these reasons should ever include race. "I just don't like black/asian/white/hispanic women," is NOT a good excuse for turning someone down because race doesn't necessarily have bearing on what makes a person beautiful inside or out.

A Weird Way to Express My Love for Men

I know I said I would maintain a blog, but the truth is that I got a little distracted. Most of you who know me well know that, in spite of it not always being the best idea, when I'm in a romantic relationship, maintaining it takes up most of my positive, creative energy. I guess I'm just not so great at multi-tasking.  The thing is that having positive and well-maintained interpersonal relationships makes me happier than anything else (and, frankly, I'm not even very good at that).  For some people it's golf, or horses, or fishing, or travel, but for me it's people. I guess you could say that my hobby is love....

Tonight I was sitting around, not sleeping, filled with a strong sense of emotional discomfort and dread. Sick-to-my-stomach dread. The kind that's unshakable. So, I thought I would write about something that I have realized before, but has fully ingrained itself in my mind of late.

Men are WAY more complicated than the world at large makes them out to be, and not always in a bad way.  I've noticed that media in general (though, advice columns are the worst culprit here, and so that's pretty much what I'm attacking) tend to paint men as these simple creatures who live to watch "The Big Game" and bang females and...well, that's it!  Uh...but people! They're human beings! This means that they can have a WIDE range of varying interests that have nothing to do with sports (though, most people probably include sex in their interests). So, where are the advice columns for girls dating geologists? Or musicians? Or programmers? Or linguists? Or dancers? Or puppet enthusiasts? Seriously though, it's like someone who spends all their time and energy doing something like playing video games is an addict and a geek.  But someone who compulsively watches every single Red Sox game of the season is engaging in healthy male behavior and should be rewarded with acceptance. Not cool. I'll tell you something, if men REALLY were as simple as they're made out to be, I wouldn't have relationship problems. I would also be totally bored out of my mind (this could also be because I like smart people).  Men are just as weird, and insane, and complicated, and messed up as women are, just in different ways. I don't understand them. They drive me insane. Sometimes I even hate them all. And that's what keeps it all interesting. So, please, World, GIVE THEM MORE CREDIT!