I has come to my attention recently that one of my friends who is beautiful, intelligent, strong-willed, and talented, has actually been told by boys (and they ARE boys, not men) that they,"just don't like black girls." Oh, yeah! She just so happens to be black! Not only is this completely fucking racist, but it's also bullshit.There are beautiful people of every race, just as there are unattractive people of every race. I am willing to bet that those guys think that Beyonce, Halle Berry, and Naomi Campbell are gorgeous and desirable, and they definitely wouldn't turn them down just because they were black. In fact most guys of ANY race would jump at the chance to be with any of those women (except Maybe miss Campbell, because I hear she's not so pleasant. She is, however, fucking gorgeous.).
There are plenty of reasons to turn down someone's romantic propositions, and some of them may include attractiveness. No one deserves to be in a relationship with someone they aren't attracted to. However, none of these reasons should ever include race. "I just don't like black/asian/white/hispanic women," is NOT a good excuse for turning someone down because race doesn't necessarily have bearing on what makes a person beautiful inside or out.
People have personal preferences towards members of the opposite sex based on many personal and physical characteristics. Many of these characteristics, particularly the physical ones, are based around racial attributes. Debatebly, this is indeed racism, but probably not the type of racism fitting into an overall paradigm of prejudice and derogatory opinions of other races. Attractiveness can be linked with race, and as you said - no one deserves to be in a relationship with someone they aren't attracted to. If a person's attraction to an individual cannot overcome their preference for certain features common among some races as opposed to others, they have no obligation to struggle against their inclinations, and certainly do not deserve judgement for doing so.
ReplyDeleteYou have a good point, but I guess what I'm trying to say is that you can't discount an entire race of people, because there are exceptions to every rule. So, for someone to say they they aren't interested or attracted in someone just because she's a certain race makes less sense than saying that they aren't interested/attracted to her because they don't like the shape of her nose or the texture of her hair.
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